Imagine this. You meet someone for the first time and you like them. Everything is perfect. They look good and they're smiling. There's just one problem. You can't think of anything to say and there's complete silence as you stare at each other.
How do you start a conversation with someone who doesn't know what to say?
Don't worry. Learn how to break the ice with a girl or a guy. It doesn't matter how shy you are. Here are some tips, ideas, and suggestions for topics you can discuss to start a conversation with anyone.
Most people ask the wrong questions!
You'll get into trouble asking these types of starter questions: 'How many kids to do you have?' or 'Do you like online dating? or 'Where did you get to school?' ... Why?
There's nothing wrong with these questions. It's just that they can be answered with a one or two word answer. This will not start an interesting conversation.
On top of that if you ask too many questions like this your first date will start sounding like a job interview.
Better questions for first dates require a much longer answer.
So, tell me about yourself.
What do you like to do in your spare time? ... That's interesting, ... tell me more about that.
You're profile is very interesting. What should I know about you?
Tell me about some of your experiences dating online.
I'm new at internet dating. Can you give me some tips or suggestions?
I like you car. I'm thinking of buying a new one too. Can you give me some advice? What were your reasons for picking that one?
What do you like to do for fun? (Wait for an answer.) ... Tell me more about that. ...
Another suggestion is to pick a topic you're both interested in. Something in their profile or emails must have attracted you. Talk about common interests.
Avoid religion and politics unless you're pretty sure they have the same ideas.
Compliments can be a good way to break the ice and start a conversation.
Pick anything you find attractive or are impressed with. As long as your compliments are sincere, genuine, and spontaneous, you will make a good impression.
Everyone likes to feel special. What is it about them that you find attractive?
Other conversation starters could be sports, news reports, celebrities, travel, hobbies, music, ... any topic that is not too controversial.
You could even ask them what they would like to talk about.
The main thing is to be calm and relaxed. When you're nervous your mind can go blank.
Pretend you're talking with a close friend instead of someone new. In this way you can relax and let your conversation flow naturally from start to finish.