There are many good reasons why it's ok for and even a good thing for a woman to ask a guy out on a date. There are also a few negative reasons why you may want to wait for guys to make the first move.
Once you know what kind of man you're looking for and the type of relationship you're most comfortable with, it will be easy for you to decide if you should ask guys out or not. Here are some things for you to consider before you ask guys out on dates.
Our world is changing. Even though most women wait for men to ask them out, the dating game is changing. Today women are equals with men, whereas years ago it was common for women to play submissive roles. The question is, should you wait for guys you're interested in to ask you out? Or should you make the first move?
Advantages of Asking Guys Out.
- Many guys are flattered when a woman asks them out. This may work to your advantage
- Many guys respect smart, independent, who are not afraid to make the first move.
- You're more likely to get the guy you really want.
- You can ask many guys out on dates. Some might say no. But many will say yes.
- You'll be dating more often.
Disadvantages of Asking Guys Out.
- Risk of rejection. Your ego may be hurt.
- You may always wonder why the guy you're interested in didn't ask you out first.
- Some of your friends might judge you negatively. (It's best not to tell everyone that you ask guys out. Keep it a secret.)
What Will A Guy Think If You Ask Him Out?
Most guys are flattered when a woman asks them out because for most men, unless they are fabulously attractive or a celebrity, this doesn't happen. Most men have to make the first move. Women typically flirt and send signals to men. If a man senses a woman is interest and he likes her, he will make the first move.
Some guys are shy even though they might be good at hiding their true nature. If you're really good looking, outgoing, and attractive you might be intimidating to a shy gentleman. So even though he may want to ask you out, he won't because he's afraid of rejection.
In most cases, men love to be asked out by women. An exception might be a man who is quite judgmental, religious, or old fashioned. If this is the kind of man you're going for or like, you might want to send signals that you're interested and leave it at that. Innocent flirting is the best course of action for a man with strict traditional values.
If you're looking for a guy that will treat you as an equal partner, it's a good idea to ask men out on dates. If the odd guy is offended or judgmental that you asked him out, he's not the kind of guy you're looking for anyway. Any man who respects women as equal to them, will have no problem when you ask them out. In fact, you might win points!
So yes, you should ask guys out if you're looking for a modern, equal partnership based on honest communication. Many men complain that when are not 'direct' enough for them. Most men love women who are clear and open about what they want. And unfortunately most women are too 'mysterious'. When you're direct and to the point, you'll find that the majority of guys will respond in a positive fashion.
After you've asked a few guys out, you'll never go back to the old way of waiting for men to ask you out. Why play games? If you're interested, ask guys out. You'll date more people, have more fun, and feel good about yourself once you've done it a few times.
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