Have you ever noticed that some men are not afraid to ask girls out?
Because they have no fear, they tend to ask a lot of women out on dates. Some say no but many will say yes.
On the other hand shy guys take their time and don't ask for dates as often. On top of that they think about it so much they get nervous and blow their chances with the one girl they like the most.
What's the solution? Don't be attached to the outcome! Guys that ask girls for dates often don't care as much if she'll say yes or no because they have many to choose from. They're not fixated on one girl.
They're also not afraid because they don't take rejection personally. They have the confidence to ask anyone. This alone will attract girls because most of women like strong men.
What if you're nervous around girls and are afraid of asking? What can you do? Realize that it's your 'self talk' that's causing your problem.
It's taken a long time for you to get like this and it will take time to develop new, effective habits that will make you the strong man girls love to go out with.
Luckily if you're determined to be confident, and good at asking women on dates, you will get better the more you do it. Here's how to ask a girl out.
It might seem stupid to say the last question over and over again in your mind or even out loud but it will work if you constantly repeat the question every day for at least three weeks. Why that long? Because it takes about 21 days to develop a new habit.
Also because you can say this question to yourself like a broken record, no one needs to know what you're doing.
This one simple question will reprogram your mind from being a shy, nervous person to calm, cool, and confident man who's not afraid to ask anyone out.
Say this question to yourself at least a hundred or more times a day for at least three weeks. The more you say it, the better you will become at dating girls you thought would never go out with you.
One of the best ways to ask a girl out is to assume that she won't say no. e.g. instead of saying 'would you like to go to the movies with me', say 'do you like movies?' When she says 'yes' you say, 'I love movies too. Does Thursday night work or is Saturday afternoon better?' Wait for her to respond. Then say, 'great that works for me. I'll pick you up at ...''
Notice that you never really asked her out but she said 'yes'. You just assumed that she wanted to go out with you. This is called 'the assumptive close'.
Also you gave her a choice between a weeknight or a weekend. This is the best way to ask a girl out because no matter which day she picks, the answer is always 'yes, I'll go out with you.' Without thinking about what she's got a date with you! Congratulations.
If you're afraid of rejection, don't worry. Get good at assuming she'll say 'yes' and you'll never have to ask for a date again. Just say it in a way that the answer is always going to be 'yes' and it will be easier to ask a girl out than you ever thought possible.