Most short first dates are not very romantic. If you've met on the internet and are complete strangers, fifteen minutes at a coffee shop will not get most people in the mood for kissing. (But there are exceptions.) On these kinds of first dates it's best to wait for a more romantic opportunity at another time.
Having said that some people feel comfortable hugging. That might be good enough for a first date. Even that might not be comfortable for some people who don't like to hug.
Here are some first date tips and advice for kissing. Also it's good to make up your own rules that you're comfortable with. Everyone is different and it's best for you to do what feels right for you.
Guys. Read signals from your date.
Be observant. Women who want to be kissed will usually communicate their desires very clearly using body language, tone of voice, and subtle verbal messages. Most women are not going to say, 'kiss me you dam fool' and neither will they make the first move. They expect you as a gentleman to be romantic enough to notice she wants to be kissed.
Women. Decide what you will do on dates before you go out on them. Make up your own rules and stick to them when you're on a date.
If a guy questions you, tell him briefly that you have rules for first dates no matter how much you like someone and it's important for you to stick by your guidelines.
Most guys will respect you for being honest with them. Explaining your rules takes a lot of pressure off men who are often confused as what they can or can't do with you. If you tell him nicely what your rules are, he'll know what his limits. This way you'll avoid awkward, embarrassing moments on your first dates.
If kissing doesn't feel right, don't do it. Use common sense. Sometimes unspoken language can be very loud and clear.
If you're not sure how your date went or whether you should kiss or not, here's the best thing men can do. Hugs are usually safe unless your first date was a date from hell. If she'll allow you to hug her, slowly give your date a hug and soft kiss on the cheek. Don't do it quickly as if you're hugging a friend. If she lets go of the hug after a second or two, let go and do nothing more.
On the other hand if she doesn't let go of the hug and perhaps kisses you back on the cheek, you'll know what to do in that moment. A woman will usually hold on, and look at you softly. She may or may not look directly into your eyes. However her lips will be in plain view. This is your signal to kiss her.
When you kiss for the first time, - don't hesitate but don't get crazy either. Very slowly move towards her and ever so gently give her a dry soft kiss. Barely touch her. If she enjoys it, you can do more, but if she moves out of the way as you go to kiss her, stop. Here's what she's saying. I like you a lot and I want to see you again, but I don't feel comfortable kissing on the first date. That's ok. Make plans for a second date.